Forgive Your Hubby For His Golf Obsession

If you are one of many wives who resent their husband's obsession with the game of golf, here is how to forgive in a big way, and make your marriage stronger in the process.

One day Martha snapped and started to scream at Jim. For years, she had been putting up with his golf obsession, silently and smilingly. Every Saturday when he went off golfing, she was left with mowing the lawn, doing the laundry, taking the kids on hikes by herself, and sitting alone at the dinner table. All the things she did not have time to do during her busy workweek. Many Saturdays, while Jim was off with his buddies drinking beer and swinging shots, Martha was sitting at home stewing in fury, and sometimes crying.
Jim had no clue as to her growing resentment, until the day Martha let it all out in one big explosion. He said, "Why didn't you tell me before now that you didn't want me to be golfing every weekend?" "You should have known," Martha retorted.
Does this sound familiar? Some marriages are torn apart by the simple game of golf. Do not let yourself become a statistic. Turn his golf obsession into a means for bringing the two of you together. Sound impossible? Here is how to do it.
It begins with forgiveness for all the hours he chose to be away from you. Forgive him for not understanding your needs, and if applicable, forgive yourself for not understanding how to communicate your needs to him. Then, once you are feeling calm, prepare to have a sit down talk where you express your feelings about his golf habit.
But wait! Before you launch into the discussion, start on the right foot. A gift will lower his defences and warm the conversation immediately. Show him your sincere wish for reconciliation by giving him a gift that is rich in symbolism, such as a golf bag watch If he is at all aware that you dislike his golf habit, he will be very surprised by your thoughtful gift. By presenting him with the golf bag watch, you are starting the conversation on a great, positive note, instead of beginning with immediate anger and resentment. The golf bag watch will help the two of you change your perspective and send a message: His love for golf does not have to be a problem, as long as he is paying attention to your needs as well.
You may be thinking he does not deserve any present at all, especially not a nice golf bag watch. You may be worried that by giving a golf bag watch you will be further endorsing a habit that you do not like. One word: compromise. How would you feel if your husband restricted you from your favorite hobby? Think about your most beloved pastime, and imagine in detail your husband making the ultimatum that you cannot continue the pastime. Imagine that he complains about it and generally is unsupportive of you when you engage in the hobby. How would that make you feel?
Happy marriages are those where both partners support the other's interests, even if they are not shared interests. Forgive your husband for his golf addiction. If you approach him in a supportive manner, you will likely find that he begins to be more supportive of you.